Conclusion (Part 3).
So, we can see that the question about the Childhood is really important. It found the glass in many spheres of human life and men’s deeds. It is not a science theory, but a reality. We know that every cow is an animal doesn't include the statement that every animal is a cow. It has been proved that many adults have had the good fortune to break the cycle of abuse. Yet I can certainly aver that I have never come across persecutors who weren't themselves victims in their childhood, though most of them don't know it because their feelings are repressed. The less these criminals know about themselves, the more dangerous they are to society. So I think it is crucial to grasp the difference between the statement, "every victim becomes a persecutor," which is wrong, and the statement, "every persecutor was a victim in his childhood," which I consider true. The problem is that, feeling nothing, he remembers nothing, realises nothing, and this is why surveys don't always reveal the truth. Yet the presence of a warm, enlightened witness ... therapist, social worker, lawyer, judge ... can help the criminal unlock his repressed feelings and restore the unrestricted flow of consciousness. This can initiate the process of escape from the vicious circle of amnesia and violence. Working toward a better future cannot be done without legislation that clearly forbids corporal punishment toward children and makes society aware of the fact that children are people too. The whole society and its legal system can then play the role of a reliable, enlightened and protecting witness for children at risk, children of adolescent, drug addicted criminals who may themselves become predators without such assistance. The only reason why a parent might smack his children is the parent's own history. All other so-called reasons, such as poverty and unemployment, are pure mystification. There are unemployed parents who don't spank their children and there are many wealthy parents who maltreat their children in the most cruel way and teach them to minimise the terror by calling it the right education. With a law prohibiting corporal punishment towards children, people of the next generation will not have recorded the highly misleading information in their brain, an almost irreversible damage. They will be able to have empathy with a child and understand what has been done to children over millennia. It is a realistic hope to think that then (and only then) the human mind and behaviour will change. With a law that forbids spanking every citizen becomes an enlightened witness.
So, we see that everything lays in ourselves. It is easy to understand that people can change everything around themselves. The theory about personal children problems is really correct. Now everybody can just analyse his past and remember the main idea of his last deeds. They will help him to solve the difficulties. It is the easiest way to survive in your own inside world, which can be a bright one. But the main problem is that not everybody knows about this theory, and especially such people can not be happy and live an easy life else the whole world can be changed. People will understand all their problems and (it is important) now how to behave and solve all the difficulties. It means – no depress, mad people and their deaths, good social situation, at last. To my mind we should try to use this material, because it can help us and it will be so easy to understand each other and, at the first term, ourselves, is not it?
The list of literature
1. “People, who play in games” A. Birn
2. “Psychology” Camille B. Wortman
Elizabeth F. Loftus
3. “ The Childhood Trauma” Alise Miller
4. “Running from Safty” R. Bach
5. “Interpretation of dreams” S. Freud
[1] The list of literature. The 2nd book.
[2] The list of literature. The 1st book.
[3] The list of literature. The 2nd book
[4] The list of literature. The 5th book.
[5] The list of literature. The 3rd book.
[6] The list of literature. The 1st book.
[7] The list of literature. The 3rd book.
[8] The list of literature. The 3rd book.
[9] The list of literature. The 2nd book.
[10] The list of literature. The 5th book.
[11] The list of literature. The 3rd book.
[12] The list of literature. The 3rd book.
[13] The list of literature. The 4th book. Other quotes are from this book.